This table is broken into three categories: unhealthy, healthy, and unhealthy again. Unhealthy categories have an orange background, and the healthy category has a blue background.
The first row focuses on emotions, with the first unhealthy box reading “Only feeling ‘manly’ emotions like anger and suppressing ‘girly’ emotions like sadness. The healthy box for this row says “Feeling and validating the full spectrum of emotions you experience,” and the second unhealthy box in this row says “Avoiding feeling ‘manly’ emotions like anger and only feeling ‘girly’ emotions like sadness.
The second row focuses on interests. The first unhealthy box says “Avoiding exploring interests, majors, and career paths that are traditionally labeled or categorized as feminine.” The healthy box says “Exploring a wide variety of interests, majors, and career paths.” The second unhealthy box says “Only exploring interests, majors, and career paths that are traditionally labeled or categorized as feminine.”
The third row is about collaborative consent. The first unhealthy box says “Embracing the narrative of being a ‘player’ and having many sexual partners without regard for their experience or consent, especially if you are only engaging in sexual activity to gain status and not for personal fulfillment.” The healthy box reads “Making informed decisions about your sexuality alone or with partner(s) while practicing collaborative consent.” The next unhealthy box says “Failing to advocate for your sexual wellbeing and following the decisions of your partner without your input, internalizing the view that your sexual purity defines your worth.”
The fourth row is about seeking support. The first unhealthy box says “Refusing to ask for help to support because you can ‘handle it yourself’ and do not want to appear weak.” The healthy box says “Recognizing when you need help and seeking out the appropriate resources in your life,” and the second unhealthy box reads “Serving as the only source of emotional support for those around you without possessing professional qualifications and struggling to uphold boundaries.”
The fifth and final row of the table is about personal wellbeing. The first unhealthy box says “Internalizing the ‘breadwinner’ narrative in a way that damages your own mental health and wellbeing because of the pressure to always provide for others.” The healthy box says “Prioritizing your own wellbeing knowing that you cannot pour from an empty cup” and the second unhealthy box says “Sacrificing your own wellbeing in order to support the wellbeing of those around you"